From a young age, I knew that pursuing the path of the writer would not be easy. But what I hadn’t accounted for, was the envy I would feel towards my friends’ successes. I knew pursuing a career as an author meant choosing the road less travelled. But there was a difference between knowing something and experiencing it.
In times of transformation, like shifting from the identity of ‘student’ to ‘graduate,’ it can be hard to allow ourselves a moment to pause. Add in the constant lens of social media, which shows us only the highlights of our peers and friends’ lives, we’ve been conditioned to feel like if we’re not working perfectly to plan, then we must be falling behind.
When I came to the realisation that both the career I had spent years studying towards, and the job I had worked so hard at were not for me, I went into crisis mode. I spent the better part of a year agonising over all the possibilities. I had so many interests, and strengths, that I could potentially turn into a career. With my career search, inevitably came the soul-searching. I had to consider facets of myself that I never had before, and I was confronted with the age-old questions: “Who am I?”
Just like how a recipe has an estimated preparation and cooking time, societal values have decided that we must follow a certain timeline as to when we hit milestones: finish high school at 18/19, go straight to university and finish at 22, get a career level job and start climbing the ranks from there. But just as cooking from a recipe can take us longer than the prescribed time, so can life.
Job rejection is a large part of the job searching experience, and while you may feel alone in this, you definitely aren’t. Every person, including myself, has been in the position of searching for their first job. So, if you’re job-seeking for the first time or the 30th, read on for advice on how you can remain hopeful through this time.
Determined for me to experience the magic of reading, my Grandma applied her first Law of Knitting. Like a good ball of wool, she enlisted the help of Roald Dahl’s classic tale The Witches. Using her Laws of Knitting, My Grandma helped nurture my love of reading. You can’t expect to knit a scarf in one go. You’re going to be slow as your hands learn how to move and thread the wool. You’re going to have to backtrack if you drop a stitch.
Having held myself back for years with low expectations, I realised that my unwillingness to try new things was dragging me down. After barely making it through high school, I thought I would never make it through anything. Nevertheless, I decided to enroll in university to shake myself up and hopefully challenge my self-doubt. During the…
“Stop comparing yourself to others.” It’s easier said than done, right? I know I am guilty of this quality but as Franklin Roosevelt once said, “comparison is the thief of joy” and comparing your own talents to someone else’s will ultimately self-sabotage your own. When you begin to compete with yourself you essentially begin to drown out the success of others. Instead of focusing on what age so and so published their first novel, you shift the focus to, if I focus on this manuscript and set myself a deadline, I could look at publishing this soon. By doing this you ultimately develop an action plan to mapping out your success.
Graduating or looking for work during a global pandemic is just about one of the most daunting things you can take on. Yet so many of us are emerging from two years of rejected applications or unreliable casual work and are hoping and praying for some luck to be on our side. The Graduate’s Guide’s…
Sometimes with our dreams and passions, we begin to map out a path that leads us to success. Sometimes we chase the dream but lose sight of the path because we keep hitting the same roadblocks. For me, following the same route of auditioning at these prestigious schools was my roadblock. Every time I was rejected, I believed I had failed my dream, but I hadn’t. I’d just inadvertently taken the same path three years in a row.